What a time to be alive. Am I right? With the constant influx of activity from irl and url friends jammed in our faces on the reg due to social media, it’s hard not to feel like you aren’t where you are supposed to be, or feel like everyone’s life is soooo much better than yours. First of all – it’s all smoke and mirrors. Second – we are all playing this dumb game of trying to appear cooler or more successful than our own reality. Once you come to terms with this façade, and understand that most are simply projecting a bullshit lifestyle, you’ll have a moment of clarity and realize you’re right where you’re supposed to be and you’re not some inadequate loser.
I often find myself thinking “Man – I should be far more advanced than where I am now” or “FML. Why am I even in my current situation – I want to have this like X does or I want the amount of success as Y”. It’s AMAZING to have lofty goals and even more credible to make shit happen for yourself – you should never stop moving forward (you should also recognize the unhealthiness of comparing yourself to others). However, more often than not, I strongly believe we take for granted the circumstances of our current situations and wish we were anywhere but the present.
If you’re working hard to make something happen, it’s easy to dream about the moment you become successful. We all tend to fantasize about that big pay-off for all our hard work.
That kind of success is always elusively around the next bend. Just a few more weeks or months away. Just a bit more work, and you’ll finally be successful.
But what about now? What’s stopping you from feeling like a success right now, this very moment? Hell – be proud that you got up in the morning, got to work on time and be stoked on the things you accomplished in the past 24 hours. There is so much to learn and GAIN in the present that will lead you to exactly where you want to go. There is so much information and interactions we exchange day to day, and even though some of the work you have to do sucks, you are still progressing and becoming stronger than you were yesterday (yes, I understand this is corny – but it’s true). There are endless life lessons we acquire regularly but they’re clouded by the unattainable beliefs of what we define as prosperous. Be proud of what you achieve on a daily basis. Be proud that you are making a living and functioning as a mature form of the person you were two days, or, hell – a year ago. You don’t have to prove your success to anyone but yourself. And you can start doing that now by accepting that you’re constantly in the ebb and flow of becoming a better version of yourself.
Keep on rocking.
*If you have any thoughts you’d like to share here or questions to ask – feel free to email me at shaelenb at g mail dot com